Monday, 18 January 2016

Angry Child? – Why Not Tell Them A Story?

Often younger children have anger issues and resolve them by simply lashing out and reacting physically. It is often difficult, if not impossible, to make them understand that there are different ways of dealing with their anger issues. But you need to talk to them in a calmer moment and then there is no guarantee that the message will get home.

 So, why not tell them a story? This is often much more effective and memorable than just telling them what to do. They can identify with the main character (in this case a tiger!) and then remember how he coped.

That was how the idea for the story I have just written was born. Children read about Ziger the Tiger and will be able to relate to the issues that the tiger faced. They will also be aware of how they can channel their anger into safer and more socially acceptable ways.
Anger issues are all too common among very young children. Teachers and school heads have noticed an alarming increase in the number of violent behavior incidents at school. They have seen that first graders often erupt and swearing and punch ups are all too frequent.

Anger can turn to rage, if not checked. With older children and teenagers, we have seen the tragic consequences of school shootings where anger is often at the root although this is a very complex subject.

However, if there are any ways that we can reduce the number of incidents involving anger early on, then we are going to have better behaved children and a much safer, happier environment all round.

As parents and teachers, we need to be aware of what actually causes anger and also work to avoid these situations when and if possible.

 • issues involving possessions (toys etc) and territorial issues involving space.
 • problems with how to deal with insults or teasing
 • anger may flare when a child is pushed or falls
 • peer rejection may cause anger
 • obedience problems where the child refuses to comply or follow house rules.
 • hunger, pain or other physical discomforts when forced to go to the shopping mall.

 Very often, we can see some of these problems looming on the horizon and take steps to avoid them.

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